Hey Mommies,

Today, I want to introduce you to a dynamic woman whose acquaintance I made at a fashion show for Christian Fashion Week years ago. I was in awe to be meeting a black designer who was also a woman. She was so down-to-earth and so humble. We kept in contact via social media and I recently reached out to her to share here on LeMomLife.

What she shared with me moved me to tears. She recently experienced a great loss. She is so strong and I am so honored that she would share her life, her pain and some of her journey with us. She also shares how she is navigating motherhood and her career while grieving. I know you will be blessed by her.

Meet Medinah Hagan-Morgan

1. Tell us a little about yourself…

I am recently widowed. My husband died from Covid 1/18/21. We were married for 10 years and together for a total of 16years. Becoming a single mom and losing my life partner has been the most difficult thing in the world for me. I’m in the middle of trying to figure out so many things; past goals, and future plans. I’m learning what grief is and trying to figure out how to sit in pain and wondering what it may look like to find joy again. My husband has a non-profit that feeds children in underserved communities. My immediate goals are to keep his vision in tact by stepping in as CEO.

My life long goals have immediately shifted due to this life interruption and , immediately, I’m learning to navigate the void of his death with my children and myself. I’m finding my way by reading the Bible, specifically the book of Proverbs. Im also finding so many relatable feelings with the Book of Job. I’m learning to take my time and not beat myself up for not checking things off the list. I have been listening to praise and worship songs every morning to get me through some tough moments.

Professionally, I have a Masters in Fashion Design and have worked in the Fashion Industry for almost 20 years. I’ve designed for many large companies like Gap, Inc., JCP and did private label design for a host of other retailers. My goal before my husband died has always been to start a line of women’s denim and blazers. So I’m really just trying to figure out how to make it a reality without my partner.

2. How many kids do you have?

I have a 9 year old son and a 6 year old daughter.

3. One lesson you’ve learned as a mother?

One lesson I’ve learned since I became a mother is that God is always in control. Especially when you think of the beginning when your child is still in your womb. No one, not even doctors, know with certainty how your child is growing and developing. This is when I knew I had to have Faith and trust God. Not much has changed as my kids get older. I realize that I can’t be with them at every moment. God is protecting them and in control of everything. Be present. Motherhood is a mix of selflessness and making sure you take care of yourself. You only have the moment: the past is gone and the future is not guaranteed. So be sure to play that annoying game with your kids when they ask and also know when to tell them to give you some space when you need it.

So good! I love the advice she gives here. 💚

Loss is such a great burden to carry, but losing your life partner is a different type of loss. I admire Medinah for her strength. I ask that as you read this, you will join me in lifting our sister up in prayer right now. The word says

For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them. -Matthew 18:20

and I truly believe that if we pray for her comfort, increased strength, provision, healing and the healing of her sweet children, the Lord is faithful to answer our prayers and do these things for her. If you are a mom/wife reading this that has been through the same thing, I ask that you leave some wisdom down below for us. I know that it’s a daily process, but how did you cope day-to-day after a loss?

xx,

Ker-Leen